I've lurked on quite a few of your posts - glad to have you weigh in on this one.
Answer: Mom/Dad - divorced when he was 8 or 9, had married due to unplanned pg of older sib., Mom was vocal on how everything was Dad's fault blah.... H maintains a distant but "in touch" relationship with Mom. Dad committed suicide about 6 years ago due to having depression and cancer. H received some grief counseling that helped with all that.
H would probably say he has average to high "desire" but that x,y, and z get in the way of expressing it. He would also say that sex has never been "easy" for him. I'm not sure what that means. I seriously doubt that he has ever had more sex than now - he was virgin until 30 years old (oral sex etc...prior to this) - he has had exactly 2 partners before me - had sex with each about a half dozen times or so. I think he has mostly just taken care of his needs through MB due to the religious thing.
To add to the fun and games (soul searching) - my past marriage was good sexually except that the ex was drug addicted physician and given to fits of rage in which he told me how sexually unattractive I was. BTW - I am generally considered above average looking, no weight issues .... So.... I have major issues about being sexually attractive. I am working on those in an effort to HOM and not make things any more confused than they already are.
Tell me more about your M - how are things now. What helped? What didn't?
