Karen...I think you are in pretty much EXACTLY the same spot I was in this time last year...and it SUCKS!!!!
I've been married to my LDH for 1.5 yrs as well...we have a 15 mo old. He has NEVER initiated sexually in our relationship...gives me pecks and grabs my butt every now and then too...but that's pretty much the extent of any sexual contact by him. Sound familiar? Oh, and trying to talk to him about it was like trying to chase my own tail.
I hate to tell you this but you are in for some hard work, lots of soul searching and lots more frustration...but it will begin to pay off for you if you can incorporate understanding and patience.
Ok...here are some questions for you.
What were your H's relationships like before you? What's his parents relationship like?...mother/father dominate? Has he ever had a higher sex drive than he does now...and if he has, did he have sex in the past more frequently than he does now?
Now those last two questions for me were very important...in fact I went this past year assuming the fact that he answered "yes" to I had a higher sex drive meant that he had more sex when he was younger too....WRONG!
