I am SO late for class already , but I just wanted to toss in this.
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I don't want to violate my own integrity by asking for sex

Asking for sex does NOT violate your integrity. I understand that you don't want to have to do it all the time, and that's reasonable. But it does not violate you in any way.

Your sitch is a lot like mine (minus the kids)... must run now. I'm sure HP will check in! Welcome, BTW!