I notice you say you aren't sure if she's ready to have uncomfortable conversations again. She doesn't have to be ready to have them...the fact is they need to happen, whether she's ready for them or not. If you have something weighing on you let it out, communicate it clearly. If she gets angry...so be it.
This is very important and something I really just came to the realization with my own hubby about. We continually side-stepped each others feelings, in order not to hurt each other. I didn't have the "uncomfortable" conversations with my H because I didn't want to push. But ya know what? It didn't do either of us any favors...it simply avoided the issues.
Personally I think it's really important to continue having those conversations, whether she's ready for it or not. Now of course I'm not saying be an ass about it LOL. Say what you have to say, ask what you need to, expect a response of some type (after all it's disrespectful for her to ignore/dismiss you). But say your piece...don't hold it in.
I told my H this weekend that I was tired of doing an emotional do-se-do with him and that I wasn't going to do it anymore. From now on I'm going to say what I have to say, when I need to say it. He doesn't have to be happy about it, but I'm going to do what I need to anyway. Surprisingly he said "ok, sounds fair enough."
