Quote: YOu know, one question has been bobbing around my brain since yesterday. WHY do I need him to want me.
I think the desire for physical closeness exists at a very primal visceral level. The sense of being accepted and WANTED physically takes us right back to the cradle, when we needed that basic love just to survive.
When I told someone once about my bf's standoffishness, they said, "Gosh, it's as if you ran to your mom or dad with your arms outstretched, wanting a hug, and they just shoved you aside." That's EXACTLY how it feels to me. It's something so simple, so affirming, so easy to give. And yet that rejection feels like the rejection of my most basic total vulnerable self. And the lack of wanting me is just a hop, skip, and a jump from rejection.
I mean if you put a soft kitten in someone's lap, it's a REFLEX, for Pete's sake, to PET it! And yet, my bf can spoon beside me naked every night for weeks and never have the desire to take it further. Or if he has the desire, he doesn't let me know... (I know there's some illogic in there. )
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