How I know about what happens when you "let up." And yes, you are getting "set up" - sometimes I wonder if there is something appealing about your anger? I'm not sure what the real cause is of the momentum then the lack of it. I'm not sure what goes on inside his head. I guess if I understood your H then I would better understand mine. Nonetheless, have a nice cup of tea, wash your face, do something nice for yourself and know that I understand.
