Try not to lose sight of the real goal. The real goal is to connect with hubby in a sustainable fashion. If it was just 'great sex' all the time with little emotional involvement in other areas, you would quickly tire of it. You know my background.
The 'process' means one spouse steps up and you both learn from it. Then the other steps up. Eventually, you learn to enjoy each others company in most areas of your life instead of just a few. That certainly makes it easier to meet each others more difficult or less interesting (at least to us) needs.
You have considered your husbands need (maybe not a need, but he likes it) for religious conversation. You found that he is interesting to talk too, even if the subject sucks for you. It seems that exercise might be the next interest to address.
You feel that hubby just doesn't 'get it' on your sexual needs, but you need to see that he is trying. Does he see you trying to meet his less interesting (to you) needs?
I have to tell you that with MrsNOP and me, A's are routinely given for good effort. A genuine good effort is after all, because the spouse WANTS TO. That is a good step toward making someone feel wanted.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
