It does sound like he felt pressure/high expectation over the "event" and most of this was of his own making. He really makes it worse on himself and he ends up confusing and disappointing you. He then lets himself off the hook entirely by saying he isn't into ( oral) anymore.
At this point, you can safely forget about the testosterone check,lol. I think Freud himself would have a tough time with all this, let alone the formidable Honey.
Don't make any over-generalizations about what the future will hold. Your H, like mine, has that self-centered thing going on,which I sometimes see as a manly trait, and other times it just pisses me off. Tell him how much the oral makes you feel sexy about you and get the focus off him. Let him come for a taste on his own terms...no sense butting heads over this one now.
