Sounds like you feel that he dangled the proverbial "carrot." Maybe he did. My C says that when H does the flowers and cards thing that what he is communicating is - I can't be who you want but just don't leave. I fervently hope it isn't as lame as all that. I also am struggling with maintaining a continued sexual interest in the face of all the rules, rules, rules... Your H's communication seems to be about "I want to do what I want about the SR and I want you to still love me and want me even if it doesn't meet your needs." That is why the contradiction - for him it isn't a contradiction -it is always the "correct" expression of what he wants at that time. Do you think that is right or not?
