NOP,
I'm not sure if you were being sarcastic there or not, but I don't think you were.

For the record, I don't think the hot sex was related to the previous behavior at all, either. I think he just happened to finally wake up and was channeling any lust he may have been feeling from earlier in the day. I further think that I would have gotten the oral had he not just lubed me up with Astroglide. (which I don't think tastes bad at all)

IF I can get him to frickin wake up, I am usually thrilled with what ensues. I don't even mind the half asleep quickies. I do mind the buildup for.....nothing.
That pisses me off.

I also am wondering if this is how the scheduled sex is going to be? I am going to address that tonight I think. That the schedule will never work--and neither will our sex life in general--if it's not taken seriously. If he can come to me and say that he's heading off to dreamland on a night when we had a HOT date planned, then I don't think he's serious. Epiphany or not, he wants his own way. He wants to not be the selfish person that he currently is. But he is evidently finding it hard to ditch the selfish behaviors. And, note that I am not in a foul mood at ALL as I write that! I'm really in a good mood and H and I have been communicating really well all day. I am just in a place where I feel like I am seeing things as clearly as I can, given that I am all wrapped up in the situation.

And, NOP, you will also find it interesting that he is having a hellacious work week. He is barely hanging in there, not eating and working late. Came dragging in the door 2 hours late last night, etc.
Don't think that this is lost on me--it's not. I even said for him to change his clothes and sit down and I would fetch him a beer (he found that humorous) and take care of him. I really do care about him and don't want to add to his stress. That's why I offered several times to give him a rain check and do it all another night. I even said, H--NO HARD FEELINGS, all right? Let's just do it another night if you are not up to it.

But he insists that he is (and was semi-convincing), then goes to sleep anyway and offers some lame two second oral finale that I passed on.
Oh well, like I said, he ended up totally getting into it and was just so erotic that I couldn't believe it was my H, so he is attempting to stretch himself. But, like Journey's H, he will do it on his own terms I guess. Stubborn jackass men do not realize what they are missing out on.

Honeypot, who loves oral and has waited long enough!