HP, from a gal's point of view, congratulations! You laid EVERYTHING on the line. From my history, I can only be envious for I chose the other sublime route, which did me NOTHING!
Is an OPEN MARRIAGE really an option? Might you be able to soften things a bit by saying something like "given a degree of attention, i'll likely quiet some over time".
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
