Get him to the Dr. to see if anything is broken. Best senario is for a pill to make him feel wonderful to rid the shame! You may have to push kicking and screaming but wouldnt it be horrible if it were something serious or easily remedied!
About 15 years ago I pushed to get H to see a Dr. At that time all bloodwork came back normal(yea right). There were a couple things I thought the withholding might be, fear of preg for one. I thought if he got the "snip" that may make a difference, vastly. (hey if you dont have humor at this time what do we have?) The Dr. told H that I really should be the one to get my tubes tied, since it was normally the W that didnt want children. H told Dr. that since he was older than me by 13 years, that should something happen to him in a car accident or so, that then I would beable to have a "normal' life. The Dr. would not do it to him.
I never found out if the Dr. said anything else.
This past year, I pushed him to go for a physical and some suspicious lumps looked at. It was like pulling teeth. Finally after 9 months of pushing, and it turning angry, he finally went. This Dr. said all there was was the implant. Its "funny" he does show a reaction, and when his guard is down, like it was when I was a sniveling pile of crying gue, H gave me a real sincere hug. I kissed his hand, things happened, he turned away and "composed" himself. What is this guarding? He may be ED but I know so much of what isnt going on is in his head. (ooh how I hate that thought no matter who says it)
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
