I feel understood. I will spare you my Sally Field "you like me" speech.
The burning loins deal is what h thinks I am after. Actually, I want HIS displays of sexiness. He is not a burning loins type of fella and I wouldn't want him to fake that. I want HIM. When he gives me a passionate peck, he looks me in the eyes and makes sure that I know what he is doing. At that moment, he is communicating to me "I love and desire you and though I am too shy/awkward to throw you over my shoulder and head for the boudoir, the feelings are there." I see it in his eyes and I read these signals in his body. I am thrilled. I don't want him to be someone he's not. I wish I could convince him of this.
But as you said, he must come to this conclusion on his own.
I also loved the structure comment. You know, I need to devise some kind of Cyrano de Bergerac device and you kind people can pipe your great comments into my earballs while I have the Talk with H.
