Suzy, I agree with you that Honey's honey is the one being selfish!
BTW I'm an only child...
Annette, this is pretty serious. My late husband and I used to have a saying about facing something bad, "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time." You've got a BIG elephant on your plate. In your posts, I hear you saying that you know you need to face this and that nothing can happen if you do not take the first step and have the Big Talk. But (not to rain on your parade, although that's just what I'm about to do) that first step is only the first nibble of the tip of the elephant's ear. When you're trying to gag down those whiskers and those tusks-- it's gonna hurt. Look how many of us have had the Talk (several times) and how many of us are in couples counseling, and we're still struggling.
Just realize that the Talk is the first step on a long journey. Don't make that first step into such a big hurdle. Don't think of the Talk as the plane leaving the ground. Just think of it as you looking over some travel folders. It's not even at the level of buying a ticket or getting the suitcases out of the closet.
Lower the bar. Define it as something simple. It's not even a firm commitment to see this problem through to the end. You're testing the climate.
Refresh my memory-- are you in counseling for yourself? It seems to me that feeling better about yourself would be a good direction to approach this from (that prep's for you, hairy!).
