Crushed,
Can you elaborate on this a little? I always worry that my aggressive nature is doing more damage to H than good to our marriage.

What could your H have done to help the situation? I hear you saying that he should have said We have a problem. But what does that look like IRL? How would it have manifested itself in your daily lives? How could he have helped you regain your sexuality?

Also, are you saying that if he had continued with the talks that you would have felt that he did everything he could?

Just trying to clarify..
Thanks for your insight and I'm sorry you are going through such a painful thing.

HP