My gosh how I wish my H would have read the posts...I am the LD W and he is a WAS. The reason for the D (not even attempt to separate and see what happens, he is shooting straight for the D ASAP) is that he thought he had to beg me for sex and eventually just stopped doing even that to see if I would change by myself. We had several fights and one "regular" talk when he set me on the couch as said how much sex means to him and how he hurts when I "mock", laugh and push him away. All those talks and fights only made me more distant because I wasn't about to admit that I'm the one with the problem and it was making me extremely angry that with all those conversations there was never :WE need to work on it but alway YOU (meaning me) need to work on it. He gave up about a year ago (that's what he says) with the conviction that he HAS tried everything there is. I wish someone would have told me that he hasn't (when it comes from me he thinks I'm belitteling his pain and hurt and I'm trying to buy some time and make more excuses), someone that went through the same thing as he did. Because as I absolutely validate his pain and hurt, I will never validate that he did try his hardest and if the M ends for good I will never forget that he did not care for my love for him enough to stick up for it.
