I thought I had replyed earlier, but I must not have pushed the post button.
Quote: I am thinking that you were NOT the original HD person in your relationship.
My wife pursued me harder then I did her, but sexually, I have always been more HD, even when my wife was HD.
Quote: I am thinking that she initiated most of your early-years sexual encounters.
I have always initiated more, that is why when she initiates it is worth 10x more.
Quote: I am thinking that she gave you the key to her heart when she said she wanted you to be more assertive.
Maybe, she wants me to be a stronger man, but outside the bedroom. I don't think she meant this in any sexual or affectionate way.
Quote: I am thinking that the very thing you most hate to do, is the very thing that you must do.
Oh, very obviously. The things that might be her love language are not my strong suit. Now if I could just figure out which ones might actually payoff for me.
Quote: I am thinking that you need to initiate.
I could have far more sex if I just asked for it. But I no longer want this kind of sex. I no longer want "willingness" as this always results in "Just Enough" sex to get by. I want a partner that WANTS to be there. I want a partner that WANTS to touch me.
Quote: I am thinking that she is waiting for you to step up to the plate.
Probably, but where the heck is the plate at?
Quote: I am thinking that she got very, very, tired of being the sexual leader in your relationship.
I have always been the sexual leader.
Quote: I am thinking that she has lost respect for you, Cemar.
Probably.
Quote: I am thinking that you know what you must do.
There are LOTS of things that I could try, but the which ones will actually payoff?
Quote: I am thinking that she is waiting on you, Cemar.
And I am waiting on her. I have been waiting for 14 years.
