Correction CeMar...you're trying to make changes in your W, not your marriage.
You have stated you expect your W to change her "personality". People don't change their personality...they change their underwear, they change the car they drive, they change their attitude...they don't change their personality.
When are you going to suck up your pride (like the rest of us who are REALLLLY trying hard) and try the things that have been suggested to you? I can't help but notice that you don't generally reply to the posts that ask those questions of you.
If I could give you a cyber smack upside the head I would....just to help wake you up because the approach you are taking (the lack of effort you are making, the fact that you expect her to do all the work, your lack of honest confrontation, and waiting for something to magically happen, and your UNREASONABLE expectations of her) is GUARANTEED not to work.
So, if you truly want your marriage to be happy, if you want your wife to be close to you again, if you want her to feel sexual towards her again. You've GOT TO CHANGE YOUR APPROACH and you've GOT TO CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE. Because what you're doing doesn't work, it hasn't been working for you...you're still complaining right? So it stands to reason that if it doesn't work today, it won't work tomorrow, and it still won't be working a year from now.
CeMar, my H and I are making progress...no, we aren't ML like I'd like yet, but we will. But you know what we can't make changes in our marriage if we don't communicate. We've gotten sooooo much better at that now....and that's where we have to begin before our sex-life can improve.
Let me ask you this....you keep talking about the unredeemable qualities that your W has. Why exactly is it she should feel attracted to you any longer (besides the physical)? You don't sound like you love her any longer...so why should she love you? Remember this is a 2-way street.
I'm really just asking questions to try to get you to think and get the heck out of that tunnel vision you are stuck in.
