As for taking your family for granted, I think that it is a circular thing. Whether you start by taking your family for granted, or whether they start taking you for granted, it all ends up with losing appreciation for the most important aspect of your life.
To be honest, I think it's good to take each other for granted; to a degree.
Family, and especially your SO are there to support each other. It's the way it's supposed to be.
But when things are hard on one person, it touches the other. So things are hard for both. Then who is supposed to support whom?
CAW lost sight of the real KAW. I don't think you truly took her for granted. You only took for granted that she knew how you feel about her.
I don't think you lost your appreciation of her. You just stopped showing it. Then she stopped seeing it. Then she didn't even want to see it.
So now, you have an opportunity to let the "real" KAW shine through, and she's receptive to seeing the real KAW.
