It's been quite a whle since I've been on the BB, too. So nice to hear your sitch is moving in a pos direction. Cycler28 made a few great points:
Quote: Are you keeping a solutions journal?
I found it so helpful (although sometimes painful) after my H and I reconcilled to be able to look back at times when we ran into rough patches to see what I might do, what I had failed to do and what I might not have thought of. Along with the obvious, which is to remind me of how far we have come.
That really struck a cord with me. I should be keeping a "Solutions Journal"....how dumb to forget that simple bit of advice. My H and I are back together, as you know....but this reconsiliation period has moments that are quite hard....harder than I realized. I am often very impatient...wanting it all NOW...and H still retreats from time to time....
Quote: Once reconcilliation has occurred........sometimes that's when the hardest work begins!!
But how fortunate we are to have the chance.
Sending my continued good wishes for your health and relationship recovery! Mooka
