Quote: P.S. Take note that I'm responding to you on your thread in "piecing", not the other one you have going
JJ, Andy, Slowly thanks for checking in. JJ, can I carry you around on my shoulder so I will always have your voice whipsering in my ear?
Last night, CAW invited me over. After some chit-chat, CAW hum & hawed because she was afraid ... afraid that my reaction would be negative, but I reminded her that theses walls she puts up have always been one of our major problems. Eventually, she strums up the courage...
SHE WANTS TO COME HOME!!!
More importantly, she wants to be my wife again! So wants to spend our life together. She misses me terribly ... she loves me ... she wants to be with me ... she wants to come home ... Will I have her back? (The possiblilty that I might say "no" is what she was so afraid of.)
I said ... we can talk about it.
Four hours we talked. I wish I had time now to get into it, but I promise to but some time aside on my lunch breaks while I'm at work this weekend to go over the nitty-gritty.
Folks, it looks like I'm "officially" back again in these neck of the woods again ... JJ how did you know?
More importantly, she wants to be my wife again! So wants to spend our life together. She misses me terribly ... she loves me ... she wants to be with me ... she wants to come home ... Will I have her back? (The possiblilty that I might say "no" is what she was so afraid of.)
I have goosebumps!!!!
YOU ROCK, KAW. Truly.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I shall never forget you from when you posted on one of my early threads about how the WAS is like an ocean liner, it takes a very long time to judder to a halt in one direction and slowly swing round to another.
I find myself in a very confusing time myself, talk about mixed messages being sent by the WAS! And sometimes when they are nearest to recommiting, it looks like they throw out the most negative signals... Like they are testing us to the limit??
Look forward to hearing more good news in the following months!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
This is great news, my friend. I’m so happy for you.
I think it was JJ who once told me that the turnaround point for him was when he truly felt that he could let his W go. Not his preference, but he could do it. Sorry if I’m mis-quoting you JJ, if it was you, perhaps you can explain it better.
I think it was the combination of you being true to yourself, whilst still loving CAW despite her see-saw behavior that did the trick (finally).
The ocean liner does indeed take a long time to stop and change direction. I think the momentum caused by distrust and the momentum of her previously stated feelings carried CAW for quite awhile while you were just showing her how you really are. You didn’t push back, which would cause her to push away. But rather, you kinda pushed gently but obliquely to change her course.
And you maintained your self. That trueness to yourself despite everything was something that CAW has finally learned to trust.
Will she waffle again? I won’t speculate on that one, but I do think that she has indeed turned a corner. We all have our ups and downs. That won’t stop now (heck! It might!) But she has made a statement about her commitment and yours. I don’t think she’ll backtrack on that.
