Good friend KAW! It's been some time since I've poked my head on the BB, but I wanted to check in with a couple of folks...of course, you being one of them.
Jeez...the last time I checked in you and CAW were still working things out. Well, at least YOU were trying. Now, come to find out, she's in an apartment??? When did that happen?
So, I have to say, after reading your posts, I thought Andy's advice was pretty right-on. You have tried pretty much everything. You've exhausted many of the techniques we employ to bring our Ses around. Perhaps it is time to just be...be KAW? Isn't that how you got CAW to be yours in the first place?
You know, I'm ever reminded of something I've come to realize over the last few years, which has been repeated many times on the BB. Our Ses do what they do because they are in pain. It's a distraction from the things that are going on inside of them...things that have been going on for years. DBing, I think, helps jog their awareness, but until our S begins to examine these things, I don't think much can change. CAW seems to be stuck in this loop. Maybe you're right...maybe she won't realize what's been going on until OM cheats on her. Maybe that's the event that will make her examine herself. Maybe that's the lesson the Universe has in mind...
Perhaps release CAW from the focused efforts of your DBing. Perhaps relieve yourself of the burden of trying so hard. Perhaps trust the Universe to let things unfold a bit by themselves for a time...
