Got your email. Sorry, but I took a few days off work and wasn’t checking my emails, so I didn’t respond right away.
Quote: … just need to stop trying so hard.
I think that says it all, KAW.
My advice is:
Do not go dark
Do not confront OM
Do not compete with OM
Do not date CAW to get her back
Do not avoid dates with CAW to spite her or manipulate her
Do not avoid in-laws to avoid being hurt
Do not follow your heart
Do not follow your head
Just be yourself, KAW. If it feels right, do it. If it doesn’t, don’t fear a missed opportunity to save your M. Over the past 2 ½ years, you’ve tried everything, KAW. Everything except to stop trying.
To stop trying isn’t the same thing as giving up, KAW. What I’m talking about is to keep your own love alive without letting it depend on CAW’s feelings. A long time ago, CAW fell in love with a KAW who didn’t try to “make” her love him. He just naturally loved her for who she is. You still love her for who she is, right?
Right?
Step back for a second, KAW and look at things with a beginner’s mind. That’s what DB is really about. 180’s, going dark… They’re all techniques to help you DB. But the bottom line is to try something different. You’ve tried all of the known DB techniques, and they haven’t worked.
