Your exchange of notes has given me some things to think about as well. My W seems to use the same thought process as annette's H, which seems to be something like: "the doctor may find something wrong. If so, I probably won't want to do what the doctor suggests to fix it. So, I just won't go. My spouse won't leave me over something like [the problem], so maybe it will fix itself in time." As GEL said, inaction... the universal solution to difficult problems. Ugh!!
