GEL

I hear what you are saying, and I agree. Think he was appeasing me because he felt I had pulled away so much he was afraid I would leave. I honestly think he feels there is not much wrong with our sex life. He does get semi hard, enough for penetration, but if I move too much during that its no good, kwim? Also there are only 2 positions he can even maintain the semi erect state, from behind and with me on my side and him between me sideways. Neither of these do anything for me. I don't know how to say to him that all this does nothing for me. He has really tried to do some nice things for me, and has stopped a couple of nasty behaviors which I am grateful for and appreciative of. I don't want to squelch the tiny little bit of progress we have made, but the fact remains.............. I want sex

Any ideas on a tactful way of conveying to him he has got to get this checked would be greatly appreciated.

Last night after dinner he told me he and the doggies had been xmas shopping. After a little discussion I found out he had been shopping for me. Now, we had decided earlier in the month we would not give each other xmas gifts due to his lack of work and the lack of finances, so I was a little upset, but thanked him. He wanted me to open the one card last night. It was a certificate to a nail salon for a manicure and pedicure. I have not been in like a year to have my hands and feet done there and he knows I like it alot. Then he asked me when my appt was to get my waxing, which I told him I had canceled it, again, due to funds availability. He then wanted me to open the other card which was $$$ for that and made me call the salon and get my appt back. Lord he can be such a nice guy when he really wants to be. I truely appreciate it all. I have been having some pain in my shoulder and asked him if he would massage it for me. I tried to get him to do it with me lying on the bed, lol, no dice. After that I thanked him and thanked him again for the certificates. He said he knows I enjoy those, which I replied, I also enjoy passionate encounters with you ..... all he said was....... well ummmmmmm maybe this weekend.

Any suggestions?

Annette