Quote: then when HE decided to make things "right" between us he didn't make any effort to see about his ED problems.
This makes me think he didn't really decide to make things right...he just put on a front that he did to appease you for awhile. If he truly wanted to make things right, he knows that he has ED...he'd get that looked into.
Sorry, I know that's probably not what you want to hear. I'm simply learning (through my own process) that when my H really wants to fix something...he'll do whatever it takes, until the problem is fixed. When something is important to him...he'll explore absolutely every avenue in order to fix a problem.
Now, that attitude is slowly beginning to kick in, as far as our sex-lives go. But it took me really changing some of my behaviors for him to really recognize that it was a serious problem for us that really needed to be addressed and he would have to be a participant in that process.
Also, why in the He** would you sacrifice your SD? For me that would be the same as stooping to someone else's level when they're doing something you don't agree with. I certainly know how it feels to want to just give in and do that...but lets face it, your SD will eventually come back, and you're going to resent him for suffocating it in the first place. The problem will still be there...and still need to be addressed.
