A friend of mine who's familiar with my M sitch said to me yesterday, "it's a shame that you never know on a daily basis what's really going on with your W and what 'normal' is." I had to think about that for a bit, but I suppose it's true. My W has been up and down on meds this year, switching SSRIs 4 times. She was in a hospital for 7 days, and during that time she had to go "cold turkey" off of all the meds while the doctors evaluated her. She has a history of migraines and stomach ills (not quite IBS, but close enough sometimes).
So, I do not know what "normal" is for my W. She probably does not know what "normal" is either. Physical factors often override other factors.
I need some sanity one of these years. It would be nice.