In my case, it's telling my W how much I still miss her. You see, several months ago, I had a talk with her that started with me saying, "I miss you." She was surprised by that opening statement and asked what I meant. I went on to say that I realized we were not as close as we used to be, that I wanted to be closer, and that I knew it would take time. She agreed and said that she wasn't sure what we could do. We said that we'd try to "work on it."
IMO, the fact that I'm still missing her is evidence that my W hasn't made much of an effort.
