Try something then. Try to think more in the ML view. The holding-carressing-snuggling-foreplay-teasing-tantalizing and then penetration.
From experience the "getting off f'ing" is something akin to turning your wife into a heated love doll and expecting her to enjoy the disipline. The other can have "pure sex, animalistic" moments too. But make sure she feels like she's more than a virgina or a comfortable place to MB in.
Pity me that the heart is slow to learn
What the swift mind beholds at every turn.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
