Have you told your husband how much that number still being there hurts you?
Is there a specific reason he is not wearing his ring?
Is he remorseful for what he has done?
It takes a while for a wayward spouse to realize the sheer damage they have inflicted upon their spouse and family. I know that you probably don't want to push him too hard, but you do need to actively work WITH him to affair proof your marriage for the future. That of course means NO CONTACT of any sort. I would also think that would include 'fond reminders' of the affair such as cell phone entries.
Congratulations with your recovery!
In case you haven't been lurking here for very long, I hate affairs! So I am not picking on you :-)
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
