IMO, I generally do not think most women intentionally go this root. For me I was career minded and very ambitious. When I found out I was pregnant with my first of 3 kids, I wasn't all tickled pink. I think my H was happier than me. I remember saying "I will take a 6 week maternity leave and back I go". Well....that all changed after the birth of my D who is now 6. The love for a child is amazing and we want to do everything possible to nuture that child so that they grow up knowing that they are loved. During this process, many women do forget their H's. I'm not saying it's right but it happens. What also happened to me was the feeling that no one was good enough to take care of my children. Both Grandma's are gone and it was hard leaving them. Then there's the figure issue. I was always in good shape and liked to dress up for my H. Well after gaining 40lbs I didn't fit into those sexy nighties any more and felt pretty bad. It wasn't until I lost the weight that I regained some of my confidence. My point is that there's more to having kids than some men think. My first child was difficult in that she always wanted to sleep in our bed. This presents another problem. All these things affected me. Then we had 2 more kids, practically back to back. Who had time or energy for S. If this wasn't enough I worked full time and forever feeling guilty for leaving them so every last minute of my "free" time was spent making up for the time I lost during the day. On top of all this I decided to go back to school (on line) but full time. Depression set in and guess where my lobido went... right out the window. It wasn't until recently that I realized how much I missed S and my H, and now that I have pretty much lost all the weight I gained, I feel more into it. S became boring, like it was rehearsed. I wanted new and exciting and so did my H..Different places and without kids to interfere or interrupt. It's difficult to be a S goddess in your home when all you are reminded of is work. Romance plays such a big part in women's desire to have S. I also understand my H's needs now too. It took a disaster for me to learn and understand all this. I now that my H is pretty content with having average S and if I can have exciting S once in a while then we have both pleased each other. I had to read a lot to get all kinds of new ideas. I think my H is really enjoying it though. I read some where that men are like a pile of dried leaves..they catch on fire quickly and that women are like coal. We smolder for a while but once we get going we are on fire and keep going. I also read that men cannot live without that release or they physically get sick. That's why many MB. Women could technically live without S and not get sick ( that doesn't mean they want to). It just goes to show how different men and women are. It actually amazes me.
