Unfortunately for me, my W falls into the category of women who seem to forget (or ignore?) how to be a spouse when they become a mother. With 2 children, this is more evident (to me at least) than it was with 1. Almost everything is oriented towards children first, H second (if there's energy left).
Of course my W will deny deny deny that this is the case. She doesn't see it. I don't know if anyone else sees it either. Does it really matter, though, as long as I think it or feel it? I don't make things up just for effect.
You asked about MC. The answer is no. Even though I've said many times in the past that "there's a problem" in the M, my W chooses to live in a status quo where things are bearable and OK. If I suggest MC, she asks "why? everything's fine." Deny deny deny. I haven't pushed, and I haven't thrown self-help books at her. I'm waiting for a miracle, I suppose.
Being children-free is a problem too. Since the birth of D3, the kids have not spent more than one night away from home, and that night turned into an early 6AM wake-up call from my MIL (who was watching the kids at her house) saying that D3 wanted us there immediately. Our last movie date was in May (our 12th anniversary) and our last going-out-to-dinner date was in August, and on both occasions we returned home to sleeping children who, once we settled into bed, woke up a few times to make sure that we were home. I just keep hoping that date nights get easier and more frequent as the kids get older and more self-sufficient.
At this point in time, I sound pretty pathetic. Honestly, it's more like I'm learning to exist on my own and protect my feelings as sh*t happens. I'd love to have someone excited to ML to me, excited to try new things.... but I don't and I don't know if I ever will. Time will tell.
