Ya know, compared to others here, I guess I don't really have a SSM.
I could be having sex with my W 2-3 times a week if I initiated the LM. She has NEVER said "no" to me verbally when I started somethin'. I just don't initiate for one reason or other.
Also, my W initiates when it's been 3-4 weeks since LM. She watches porn to get stimulated too! Sounds like she's not really anti-sex after all.
I'm reading DR in the hopes of figuring out how to deal with W's depression, low self-esteem, and lack of desire. I'm not saying anything more to W about fixing the M 'cause it's obvious that she doesn't think anything is wrong. I'll just keep working on me and see how it goes.
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