Sounds like a good plan. But do listen to HP, she has some good advice.
Exmaple - this morning it was next to impossible to get D6 and D8 up for school. I had to carry D6 downstairs, and feed her! I knew, since I had called them last evening from school, that they had gone to bed fairly late again...
As I was getting their coats on, it took forever to find their hats and mittens - we have a wire 'closet organizer' in one side of the closet with pull out drawers where we keep the hats + stuff. I had gone through and organized it a couple of weeks ago, but it had 'collapsed' the other day (I have an ongoing battle with that thing...looks like a good idea but it's not built well, it was here when we moved in, and I would love to find a better solution, but that's another story ) Anyway, H + kids had put it back together last night, and in doing so, H had 'organized' things.
My first reaction was 'why does H always think his way of doing things is better!!' and I thought, 'now I'm not going to stand for this!', and planned to march upstairs as soon as the girls left and confront H.
Instead, I took a breath, realized I did appreciate very much that H had fixed the ?%#*! thing, and my bringing that up would only start a fight, and what I 'really' needed to talk about was the girls bedtime.
So I 'chose' my battle, realized that H doesn't really care how that thing is organized as long as it's easy to get to stuff, put things back the way I had them, and tried to figure out what to do about the bedtimes.
Took me a while to decide how to do that, I knew if I waited till H came down for breakfast, he'd be in his 'I'm in a hurry!' mode, and I wouldn't get to say anything.
But I was exhausted, don't function well on less than 6 hrs sleep, and I'm pretty sure I'm going to have to talk with (difficult) mother of difficult student this evening...so I think it might be a good idea to just take a nap while I can and wait a while...
When I got to bed, H was awake, so I decided I might as well do it now - asked him how I could help to make things easier for him to get the girls to sleep earlier. I told him what the morning had been like.
We ended up having a pretty decent convo about it, and H gave me a hug and kiss at the end.
Sorry this is so long, but I just wanted to show what can happen when you 'choose' your 'fights' and how to present them. Ok, this was a much less heated topic than sex, but as you've seen, at our house, at the wrong time, just about anything can be a 'hot' topic.
Good luck Chris. I'll write more on my own thread when I get some time.
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