Quote: Oh, and by the way...if you approach your W about something and it pisses her off so-be-it. You've said what you need to. Keep the communication clear...and if she gets pissed off do your best not to let her anger rub off on you.
This is very important. It is not your job to avoid pissing off your spouse, especially when something is really bugging you. You have to speak up. Suffering in silence doesn't get you anywhere. Just because they get mad, doesn't mean you didn't say it nicely and in a grownup way. Their anger can be a tool to shut you up. Unplug that tool... don't let their anger keep you from voicing your needs and desires. Cemar, this is for you, too.
