Huge breakthroughs recently. W has accepted responsiblity for her actions. Going through everything we have has helped W bring up and start dealing with many of her issues with her childhood.
W finally reached the end of her rope - and let go. And God caught her.
She still hasn't committed to wanting to meet my needs, but no longer desperately wants out.
Her acceptance of responsibility has given me a new peace about my own acceptance of her As.
I've also realized that it is even more important to keep DBing, and prove my 180s aren't tricks or techniques, but genuine changes. Keep my focus on ME. sounds selfish, but by focusing on what I can do for my W and Family, I worry less about what I think others should do. My positive example, based on action, not words, is getting me what I wanted when I tried to focus on others. Even works with our kids, and I don't have much time left with S13!
Huge breakthroughs at work too, applying the same "unselfish focus on me" approach with my boss.
