Control and respect. It is what we both need, and are somehow unable to give to each other.
W has gotten into the practice of staying up late, coming to bed after I am asleep, and throwing a fit because I'm snoring. Not just a fit, but a rudely wake me up by kicking me, yelling at me or jerking the covers off the bed fit.
W's B (my BIL) came to live with us last week, at W's request. She was looking forward to it and excited, but today called and said she is at the end of her rope because she doesn't have any "me" time anymore. BIL's been here less than a week.
I've been busy with wrestling practice and tournaments, so BIL hasn't affected me. We get along great and he really is a nice guy. I can't help but wonder if W is pissed because she can't spend her day talking with OM?
She is putting a lot of stress on herself with her medical complaint. It is just a complaint now because the lawyer she paid $850 to said he couldn't do anything for her. The best part........ W borrowed the 850 from my mom ! She did this without telling me - but when we got into an argument about contributing around the house, W threw in my face that I didn't make enough money so she had to borrow money from my mom to pay for her lawyer. I'm not sure how that was supposed to hurt me that she had to pay for a lawyer to help her fix the results of her actions, but I was sure upset about it, and it ended the argument because I had to leave in order to calm down.
I've honestly been just coasting for the last few weeks, and really need to buckle down and decide what I want, and how I am going to express my needs proactively, and constructively to W. I keep hoping she will just react to my changes and start making some changes on her own - but that just ain't happening. Right now I'm feeling like there are some people that just are incapable of change, and I happened to marry one.
