I'm more of stuck in a catch-22. W has only been cooking sporadically, but has claimed she wants and accepts the responsibility of cooking good meals for the family. If I cook, W feels I am doing her job. If W doesn't cook and I ask about dinner, W feels I am nagging and never help.
I have been trying to work WITH W more, rather than instead of her - but W is trying to work through a serious depression.
But on another note - What's wrong with Corn Dogs
Recently, W has been obsessing about her past treatment from a specific doctor, and is considering sueing him. We've talked about this in MC, W talked about it w/ her C, and we even agreed on a step-by-step course of action. But W doesn't remember any of that - she just wants to sue.
I'm trying to be careful to be supportive, but also remind W she needs to consider what result she wants to get, not just an action she wants to take. W accepted some of my advice, and I slowly started offering more and more advice and supporting less and less, without realizing it.
Suddenly W replied to one of my suggestions, "This is why i need a D, you never support me, IDLY" etc. etc. I quietly got up and left the room after she finished her tirade.
When I came back, W apologized and said she did love me. I told W I would support her no matter what, I just wanted to encourage her to think about what she wanted, not just what she was doing to get it.
