W has been seeing her own C, in addition to our MC. I have to be very careful to stick to my 180s so they become real changes, and continue to examine how my actions affect W.
W is continuing to define her feelings and limits, ex:, instead of "leave me alone" W'll say, "I need some me time".
But I'm still having difficulty getting good feedback on what she needs to make her feel good. She continues to tell me "You just don't know what I need," "You should know what I need", "I shouldn't have to tell you what to do to make me happy."
I've been careful to only give advice if W asks me for it. I've been helping out around the house - but not getting (or asking for) credit for it. We attended my work Holiday Party & enjoyed ourselves - inspite of kids getting into a fight and calling us asking us to come home. I took W out to lunch, and scheduled another lunch date with her tomorrow. I'm starting to better balance my own "me time" with "family time". I try to spend some "W time", but I'm not sure I'm getting credit for it. I guess I really don't have a good schedule for "W time".
Maybe I'm expecting the same old things we did that demonstrated a familiarity with each other to work, when now we don't have that familiarity or bond any more.
There is also a lot of stress for W around the holidays. W has admitted several times after she has snapped at me that she is thinking about bad things.
