I understand where you're coming from too, CeMar. I spent years there. Just look at my posts from six months ago. I said that I had tried everything, but the cold, hard fact was that my W just didn't like sex. Never had, didn't now, and never would. I even went so far as to suggest that W might be gay. I myself said that there's no way to compromise when one wants sex and the other just doesn't want any at all.
I was wrong - and so are you. I've worked really hard at changing myself, my attitudes, and my behaviors. And guess what? Where my previous record was three times in a year, we've ML 18 times in the past five months - on a pace for more than 12 times the old record. Is a little less than once a week what I want? Am I satisfied with that? Am I completely sexually fulfilled? No, no, and no. But it's MUCH better than it was and with my new attitudes, I really do appreciate W's efforts. I also look at the bright side: I may be getting laid only about once a week (when I would really like three or four times a week), but it's way better than once every six months. Our R is vastly better and W really is trying. I'm optimistic that things will continue to get better. It may never reach what I want, it probably won't, but I can be happy with the new R and the increase in our SL anyway.
So as others have said: get the chip off of your shoulder, quit blaming your W, and get to work.
