Seems to me you have a very defeatest attitude. Believe me, nothing will change if you truly feel that way, I know, I was like that for 15 years. If you really honestly want to make your marriage better you have to be willing to lay it on the line and back it up if they call your bluff. My marriage is not great, granted, but its better than it has been in the past 20 yrs. And yes, its hard work sometimes. Only you can decide if you really want to make it better.
