I am watching it first hand...and getting input from both sides on this. Naturally, I can't say anything to the other about what's been said to me...because they're both saying things in confidence. But it's been an excellent learning experience for me.
One good thing to come from my parents situation is that last Christmas right around the time everything with my LDH was coming to a head (no pun intended)....my parents clued me in (separately) to what was going on with them. Now that was good and bad. I was already completely stressed out with my situation (thinking my marriage was heading for divorce) and now I hear my Dad say that he would walk out on my Mom if he were 15 years younger.
Now obviously that's the bad to the situation...what's the good? I relayed everything to my H, about how stressed I was and that yes, he was a big part of my stress...but when I clued him in on what my folks were going through it kind of helped I think. I mean, I told him that if we didn't figure something out...that would be us, but it wouldn't take us 38 years to get to that point.
