HP: Thanks for thinking of me. I'd love a link to the article if you happened to be reading it online.
I don't know if a son would have changed my W's thinking. Understand that she is dealing with two stepsons who she has watched grow from 8 to 13 years old, and 10 to 15 years old, respectively.
As I've noted, at least in regards to the SSM subject, her feminism is just another in her litany of convenient excuses not to make love. Her fear of intimacy, sexual anorexia, lack of self esteem (body image and sexual competency) are her real demons which she will have to deal with before we can make any significant inroads on curing the SSM.
I haven't posted much lately on my current situation, mainly because not much has happened with us lately. I did have this conversation with her last Sunday, right before DD3's nap, during which W planned to nap with her:
H: Maybe after DD3 goes down for her nap, we can spend some time together. W: Doing what? Napping? H: Maybe that, but maybe something else. W: Like what? H: Like lying together, naked, snuggling. W: No. (pause). But I appreciate you asking.
It was light hearted, and I'm not sure what she meant by "appreciate." At least its better than some responses she could have given.
Right now we have all the kids (4) at our house until next week, as my X flew to Korea for a vacation yesterday. It's unlikely that anything will occur while they are in the house, although stranger things have happened.
