HD, you can be as kind toward her as you want, that includes snuggles, etc.
What you don't do is let some sweet moment when you are feeling all weak-kneed cause you to engage your mouth with the likes of "Maybe I can learn to live without sex" or other weak sounding diatribe.
Taking it a bit further. Let her initiate. When she does, coy will not do. She needs to state her desires clearly. Ignore anything less.
She may not think that you are having an affair, but your change in attitude certainly has her perplexed. Don't be an ass, but do be the strong man in your relationship. Be the official.
Next time she snidely mentions something about the 'girlfriend', instead of some comforting gesture, look at her sadly for a moment, say nothing, then turn away. If she asks you honestly and upfront, "are you seeing someone else?", then give her a straight forward, honest answer.
Reward forthrightness, turn away from bull stuff.
Have you considered taking a course in emergency medical preparedness from the RedCross, or maybe rock climbing?
Think about this - Your strength has to offset her feminism.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
