Annette, I hope my post didn't sound testy... what I meant is that a few months ago I decided we needed to do something about this and we started going to the C, but still no sex. He has the V, but has only used it ONCE. Bf has also had heart problems (had quad bypass 6 months ago, but doesn't take nitro, so V is okay).
I think going to a C is a good idea, but if someone is resistant to doing anything about the problem, they can be resistant in front of a C, too. It's just more expensive.
My late husband was completely physically impotent due to diabetes and he had the penile implant surgery (horrendous surgery, but if it weren't so awful, every guy would want one... you just pump it up manually and it stays there forever). The surgery did not help our sex life. It steadily declined.
I need to get rid of this attitude... I think it's because we're going to the C in an hour, and I WANT to make something happen!!! This is even more frustrating... because I feel like we are DOING something, but still not getting anywhere. I think it's because both of us are still hiding...
