Quote: I wonder whose face she sees on yours when she lets you know that you aren't going to "get" to her no matter how hard you try... That comment really makes me feel like she's testing you.
I think it may be her father's face, but she would deny it vehemently. Her father was emotionally abusive, e.g., "How could you be so stupid?" kind of comments. I do agree that I feel as if she is testing me. She has made similar comments in the recent past which suggest that she is not willing to change at all.
Quote: But you have to ask yourself, why do I keep on wanting sex with someone who so clearly doesn't want me? What important person in your deep past are you still trying to get to love you?
I really don't think there is anything like this going on with me. I felt (and feel) loved by my parents. The reason I am still here is because I have a strong sense of commitment to our child and my kids from a prior marriage. As I've said before, when I come to the conclusion that I can be a better parent away from her than with her, I will leave. We make a good team as parents, however, so I don't see that happening any time soon.
