Is this a HD-LD situation?

[Genie2]

I just want him to take a shower so that I don't have to smell his BO in bed. I may try that avenue, but frankly, I'm the LD person, and I could do without for a long time.

I hate hugging or kissing and smelling BO. I see it as not only a lack of respect for me, but that he doesn't respect himself very much. It's when we pass in the hall (and D19 has also noticed) and I smell his BO even when we aren't in close contact.

Even his pillowcase has permanent stains on it from body oils that won't wash out! Needless to say, he does not get to use the new pillowcases.

HP - I really do mean to try the use of LL. It seems that he gives me little chance in some ways. He always is reaching over to me. When I try "footsie" under the taable or at the movies, he moves his leg, as if he thinks he's in the way...
The WOA is harder. We did actually have a discussion over the weekend regarding a "distant possibility" of a job change. As it turns out, his "almost dream" job came open Friday. I let him tell me how it came about, then gently reminded him how hard it was to do two very taxing things at the same time, while learning both. This is part of what led us to Retrouvaille in 1995. He would have to learn a new job while still in school for the degree for that type of job. At his point in time, he is in no condition for the additional stress. I didn't come right out and tell him that htere is no way he could do it. But, in the end, I think he came around to my pooint of view.

Thank goodness. What I am looking for is that our marriage become second only to his relationship to God. Which means I should be the most important thing in his life - not money, not work, not further education, not social relationships.

H is getting better at reminding me about meetings which will delay him getting home. He usually brings it up in relation to what we will have for dinner, since he usually is responsible for that. Now, if I can nudge him to take care of making a dental appointment... I don't think he's been for 5-10 years. It's hard to remember when it's been so long. come to think of it, I need to go, too. I don't have dental insurance, so I have to check the money situation first. Mine is not urgent, just preventive care. H has an abscess, I think, and certainly several broken (rotten) teeth.