GEL, I'm not sure of your ages, I'm mid-40's here, but if your spouse is like me he was brought up at the end of the "Guys are stoic and don't complain, show emotion and talk about feelings era". What this means is that not only are guys like us uncomfortable talking about feelings and problems but we don't have a clue as to how to express said feelings and issues.
So take things slow and find him a worksheet that has feeling words and the categories they are part of. I got one such sheet from my counselor and another when we did the Marriage Encounter weekend.
Scott
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"
