COgal wrote << I've thought about "accidently" dropping one in his office.>> To me that sounds childish along with microwaving them. Just shred them and give him the pieces. Generally do what a mother with a strong sense of family values would do. No revenge stuff. That leads to revenge on his part. You mention 2 teen age kids in the house. Your kids need better role models than your H is displaying.
<< I've also thought of a little role-playing during the once-a-week >> No role playing. That is playing his game. Do you want to be a porn star or a "WIFE" while being a mother.
<<< I'm almost wondering if he wanted me to find them so that we'd have a big fight and he'd run away to live with his buddies again. >>> He does not respect you and given your past behavior, maybe he thinks he can continue to do things "HIS WAY" without consequences. NO fight. Get your thoughts down on paper. Choose a plan of action, a list of consequencesand and stick to them.
H already agreed to no porn. Did you have a consequence that goes along with that agreement? If not, then it was a poorly planned agreement on your part. Anyone can agre to anything if there are no consequences. It's called hollow promices.
Again, not to beat you up, just suggestion so H does not take advantage of your generous nature. Please protect your kids.
OG Lou A deal is a deal for me and soo many other people too. No room for manipulaters. Glad to hear you look thirty something.
