Nik, I haven't posted in a while but I have been following your story. You seem to be doing well considering your situation. I just want you to know that it was 4 years ago for me when the bomb dropped. I was d'bing for a long time. I got the same treatment ILYBNILWY. An EA with a coworker. My H did not leave but things between us were bad. I often wondered if he was waiting for me to leave. I kept at the D'bing and things slowly started to change for the better. We became friends again and slowly our marraige began to come together. Oh things are not perfect and we have a long way do go. But things are much better.I know it seems hard but stay focused. Make the weight loss a goal for yourself. I did that too. I lost some weight and started to exercise. Now every morning I run 2 miles before work. Two years ago I would not have believed that would be possible. So be realistic and patient but don't give up hope. Keeping setting goals for yourself. Regardless of the outcome of your situation, you will be a better person. Good Luck! Lyn
